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The Value of Respect in Modern Organizations
'Respect' is an important value in every culture. We are all taught to respect other people; whether they are older or younger than us. We are also taught to respect properties and belongings that are not ours.
However, many working employees found themselves not being respected either by their subordinates or superiors at their workplace. Many have complained that they have experienced different kinds of uncivil behaviors, verbal and nonverbal abuse as well as bullying and humiliation from their superiors. These uncivil behaviors can include silent treatment, demeaning jokes, 'scapegoating', backstabbing, and harassment.
Types of ?Disrespects?
There are many forms of 'disrespects' being displayed among the employees of different levels. Some come in the more 'open' method such as bullying, belittling others, demeaning jokes, as well as harassment. Hidden forms of abuse are like bad mouthing about certain employees or colleagues, gossiping, backstabbing, scapegoating and embarrassing employees in front of their peers.
Here are a few steps which you can take should you find yourself in such situation:
Examine Your Own Behavior First
When you start experiencing uncivil behaviors from people around you, you will feel uncomfortable. So, start to reflect on your own actions first. Have you shown any disrespect to your staff or colleagues? There may be many incidents which you may not recall well. You may have done so consistently or unintentionally. You may even have done so because you have seen your peers doing so.
Apologize to the person(s)
After you have examined yourself, gather the courage within you to own up to your ignorance. Do this as soon as possible. You may apologize openly or behind closed doors. Owning up to your ignorance takes a lot of courage. You will be appreciated for your effort. Apologizing can prevent ugly litigation and staff attrition, something you do not wish to happen to you.
Lead By Example
You do not have to wait for your superiors to realize that 'respect' in the workplace is an important value. You can start doing so; this is lead by example. Make it clear that you do not tolerate 'disrespect' at the workplace. Reprimand anyone showing disrespect to others immediately. When others see you showing respect to your colleagues, they will do the same too. The workplace environment will indeed be different.
Document the Aggressive Behaviors
There are arrogant people in any organization who look down upon others. They feel that their positions allow them to behave aggressively toward their subordinates.
If you should meet such people, you can document what they say. Carry with you a voice recorder. When you are verbally abused, record what is said by that superior. You need to report to the HR department immediately. Produce the evidence when you are asked to.
Should the case involve discrimination against beliefs, racial and sexual, get legal counsels immediately.
Get the HR to educate staff on the value of 'respect'
Aggressive behaviors are usually the cause of internal conflicts among staff. Suggest to the HR to engage an organization trainer to educate staff on this value. Make sure everybody attends the training and have some follow up observations done after the training.
You can suggest to the HR to include a phrase or two about aggressive and uncivil behaviors in the Employees' Handbook. Everyone in the organization will be more careful with what they say or do towards others.
As human is considered a precious factor in every productivity process, the HR of every organization have to make sure these uncivil behaviors are handled properly. If not, there will be a sharp fall in productivity. Nobody will want to work in such an unpleasant environment again.
Give opportunities to your colleagues or staff to express their appreciation for one another
This is for you if you are a boss of an organization. Organize some activities where everyone in your organization can participate. Let them help each other. Give them a chance to thank and praise each other. Let them know your organization appreciates them too.
If you are not in any superior positions, you can still do something. Be the first to show appreciation to your colleagues. Respect their actions and thoughts. In return, you will be respect too.
Commit to the principle of respecting others and their individuality
Everyone has different behaviors, attitudes, beliefs, lifestyle, perspectives and visions. It is because of these, everyone deserves to be respected. You have your own individuality too. You also demand respect from others, especially your colleagues and staff. So, you have to be committed to this principle all the time!
Take a firm stand against uncivil behaviors all the time. Do not let anyone in your organization get away with it. It is contagious! Many employees, for fear of their work and future, choose to keep quiet and silently endured the stress and depression. You can imagine what that will do to an organization?s reputation.
Only people who respect others and insist on doing so will find themselves being labeled as 'effective individuals'. Keep your job and keep your staff. Show them the respect they deserve.
The Value of Respect in Modern Organizations
'Respect' is an important value in every culture. We are all taught to respect other people; whether they are older or younger than us. We are also taught to respect properties and belongings that are not ours.
However, many working employees found themselves not being respected either by their subordinates or superiors at their workplace. Many have complained that they have experienced different kinds of uncivil behaviors, verbal and nonverbal abuse as well as bullying and humiliation from their superiors. These uncivil behaviors can include silent treatment, demeaning jokes, 'scapegoating', backstabbing, and harassment.
Types of ?Disrespects?
There are many forms of 'disrespects' being displayed among the employees of different levels. Some come in the more 'open' method such as bullying, belittling others, demeaning jokes, as well as harassment. Hidden forms of abuse are like bad mouthing about certain employees or colleagues, gossiping, backstabbing, scapegoating and embarrassing employees in front of their peers.
Here are a few steps which you can take should you find yourself in such situation:
Examine Your Own Behavior First
When you start experiencing uncivil behaviors from people around you, you will feel uncomfortable. So, start to reflect on your own actions first. Have you shown any disrespect to your staff or colleagues? There may be many incidents which you may not recall well. You may have done so consistently or unintentionally. You may even have done so because you have seen your peers doing so.
Apologize to the person(s)
After you have examined yourself, gather the courage within you to own up to your ignorance. Do this as soon as possible. You may apologize openly or behind closed doors. Owning up to your ignorance takes a lot of courage. You will be appreciated for your effort. Apologizing can prevent ugly litigation and staff attrition, something you do not wish to happen to you.
Lead By Example
You do not have to wait for your superiors to realize that 'respect' in the workplace is an important value. You can start doing so; this is lead by example. Make it clear that you do not tolerate 'disrespect' at the workplace. Reprimand anyone showing disrespect to others immediately. When others see you showing respect to your colleagues, they will do the same too. The workplace environment will indeed be different.
Document the Aggressive Behaviors
There are arrogant people in any organization who look down upon others. They feel that their positions allow them to behave aggressively toward their subordinates.
If you should meet such people, you can document what they say. Carry with you a voice recorder. When you are verbally abused, record what is said by that superior. You need to report to the HR department immediately. Produce the evidence when you are asked to.
Should the case involve discrimination against beliefs, racial and sexual, get legal counsels immediately.
Get the HR to educate staff on the value of 'respect'
Aggressive behaviors are usually the cause of internal conflicts among staff. Suggest to the HR to engage an organization trainer to educate staff on this value. Make sure everybody attends the training and have some follow up observations done after the training.
You can suggest to the HR to include a phrase or two about aggressive and uncivil behaviors in the Employees' Handbook. Everyone in the organization will be more careful with what they say or do towards others.
As human is considered a precious factor in every productivity process, the HR of every organization have to make sure these uncivil behaviors are handled properly. If not, there will be a sharp fall in productivity. Nobody will want to work in such an unpleasant environment again.
Give opportunities to your colleagues or staff to express their appreciation for one another
This is for you if you are a boss of an organization. Organize some activities where everyone in your organization can participate. Let them help each other. Give them a chance to thank and praise each other. Let them know your organization appreciates them too.
If you are not in any superior positions, you can still do something. Be the first to show appreciation to your colleagues. Respect their actions and thoughts. In return, you will be respect too.
Commit to the principle of respecting others and their individuality
Everyone has different behaviors, attitudes, beliefs, lifestyle, perspectives and visions. It is because of these, everyone deserves to be respected. You have your own individuality too. You also demand respect from others, especially your colleagues and staff. So, you have to be committed to this principle all the time!
Take a firm stand against uncivil behaviors all the time. Do not let anyone in your organization get away with it. It is contagious! Many employees, for fear of their work and future, choose to keep quiet and silently endured the stress and depression. You can imagine what that will do to an organization?s reputation.
Only people who respect others and insist on doing so will find themselves being labeled as 'effective individuals'. Keep your job and keep your staff. Show them the respect they deserve.
